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Is This Minister Candidate The One? Or is it this one?
In the adventure of choosing a wedding officiant you may have more than one choice - two or more officiant minister candidates. So how do you decide? How do you do this? With ease. A: By using your inner sense of things, your intuitiion - to read the signs and signals before you.
Here are some categories of signs and signals. You may have your own and your own description of them. As with everything make it work for you two. You will have your own way of doing it. Here's what we're starting with:
GO (go with this candidate, yes hire this one)
SLOW DOWN (you're moving too too fast "nothing is urgent" relax)
STOP (pause and come back to it tomorrow when you're more rested)
PULL OVER (take a short break; maybe a few breaths, then see what's next)
GET MORE INFO (make a list of things you need to know to make a decision)
TWO OR MORE SIGNS AT ONCE (what the heck? What do we do now? Oh, also, you may not see-hear any signs at all, no signals (see the all black in above photo). Whew!~@ So here you are, finger in cheek, looking above for the answer and uttering: "Hey, what's up with this?" You may even doubt if your efforts are working (yikes!).
What do we do with the signs or no signs we see?
How do we interpret them?
This is an important question because how you interpret a sign will typically determine how you see (how your think of) one or more of your minister-officiant candidates. Which means how you see them will influence if not determine your next move.
Note: You can also use our Before Hiring Page to connect with what you values you have regarding what's best for your ceremony. The hiring page works well with this page.
So, is the sign you're thinking about a good sign? Or a bad sign?
I understand. We can think of signs as good or bad because our human conditioning is to think this is good or bad. But, in real life (for me at least), just because a sign appears good or appears bad doesn't mean it can't change. Like, a sign can make you think it's bad but then turn out to have been good. Another approach is to start off thinking of signs as just information, not good or bad - hearing a sign as information and avoiding interpreting it one way or another.
Which means a sign might start off sounding not so good of a sign, but...
... then later turn out to be a really good sign, and the choice for you, the candidate now becomes the one you want to hire Likewise, a sign could look like pretty good but then other information comes and you get clear "I don't want to work with this candidate!" I'm hoping now that you're seeing that signs can change as other things change (which is another reminder that "we can always count on life changing and affecting everything else.").
Here Are a Few Common Signs
I hope something you just read was helpful. Let's look at examples of signs (I see you smiling):
There can be many signs, but (caution) signs are just signs and never a guarantee that a particular officiant candidate is the one for you. Unless, of course, they are.
Here are 10 signs:
(1) What you’re seeing is matching what you want.
(2) The sound of the candidate’s voice is the sound you’d like on the wedding day.
(3) Their ideas are compatible with your ideas about the ceremony.
(4) The officiant remarkably looks like the minister officiant in your dream last month.
(5) You just have the feeling that this is the officiant for you.
(6) It felt good when you talked to them.
(7) So far the candidate did what they said they’d do (e.g., called you on time).
(8) The candidate said something mistakenly but right away acknowledged it, cleaned it up (they were honest about it).
(9) The officiant minister candidate seems to be a very good listener.
(10) My partner had the same experiences as me.
Now you know there are all types of signs and, hopefully, have a good idea or two to assist you with them.
In closing, here's wishing you good everything in finding the perfect wedding minister officiant for you (as you would define 'perfect'). Lastly, when ready, visit our Officiant Agreements Page so you can have a heads-up about what to expect. Rev.Paul